You Are the Architect of Your Life


What is important to you?


Who or what do you fight for in your life?


If “You” is not part of the answer, then it should be. Everything positive or negative starts within the skin, electricity and bones that are “You”.


I believe that these simple questions are necessary, for each of us to visit and explore from time to time, in order to establish a healthy relationship with both the heart and the mind.


Unfortunately, most of us never take the time to really explore these questions. It’s easy to avoid them when one is caught up in the physical, emotional and everyday demands of modern life.


Over the past few years, I have fully realized that happiness is indeed a state of mind. It is controlled by each of us individually and we choose to accept of reject the things that make us unhappy, sad or off-center. It is these choices that lead to much longer-term conditions of resentment, hatred, and miserableness, or lead to fulfillment, happiness and contentment, just to name a few.


One of the biggest obstacles to our own happiness is our unwillingness to let go of “ expectations”. As such, we set ourselves up for failure.


How and why?


Because the world, and everything in it, is in constant change. Energy moves. Vibration is always in flux. Everything seen and unseen to us, is changing. If we always expect certain outcomes, we deny the basic law of the Universe itself - Change.


As Architects of Our Lives, we learn and grow from our mistakes. As builders, we seek to master our personal construction techniques, based on the very scars that our mistakes have left etched within us. As a result, I believe that we seek to build something meaningful and greater out of our personal passions and love. It’s all the negative things around us that usually prevent us from building a new reality. We simply give up and accept things as they are. In fact, we must find the courage to tear down the things that have been holding us back, in order to build anew. We all have our own personal “Wrecking Ball” inside ourselves to remove the parts of the current “structure” that is weak so that new construction can begin.


Whether we use our wrecking ball for positive or negative change is ours by choice.


There are many types of “Wrecking Balls” around us each and everyday.


Here are a few examples:


The Dusty and Moth Balled Wrecking Ball:

Some people accept the unhappiness and chaotic condition of their life. They choose to be submissive to the ongoing chaos of the world around them. They have the tools and knowledge to remove the pain and rebuild, but they choose to keep silent and accept things as they are.


The Destroyer Wrecking Ball:

Some people refuse to turn their wrecking ball on their own life and instead, choose to destroy everything and everyone around them, with no intention of rebuilding anything.


They find joy in tearing others and other things down.


The Self-Serving Wrecking Ball:

Some people selectively destroy others and other things to manipulate and control them by enacting their own architecture upon them.


The reality is simple. We all have the power to remove and rebuild all aspects of our lives.


We have the tools, the knowledge and the ability to enact powerful change.


Acceptance of any negative current condition, including placing blame on others, is just a cheap card trick that we play against ourselves. In the end, each of us defines our own destiny. Each of us decides what we accept and negate in our individual reality.


There are no Patsies, only choices.


In order to create any change, we must first overcome our fears. We do so by finding the courage within ourselves to tear down the weak parts of our life. We separate from and let go of the negative influences and outside stresses (people and things) that tear us down or put us out and replace them with people and things that lift us up and add joy and meaning to our lives. In doing so, we become master builders as Architects of our lives.


Sven Goran Erikkson once said, “The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.”


Believe in yourself.


John Maxwell stated, “If we’re growing, we are always going to be out of our comfort zone.”


Find the courage to let go of the things that you can’t change: the things that beat you down and rob you of happiness and joy.


Dare to become the builder you were meant to be.


Katherine Hepburn once said, “Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get---only what you are expecting to give.”


Enjoy this life and, through your own architecture, heart and mind, empower others with your inner light and love.


Let go of expectations.


Let go of your Fear.


Accept change.


Embrace the ebb and flow of the Universe and build with great love.