You are the Captain.
You can't control another "ship" while navigating from the wheelhouse of your own vessel. So why would you even try, or better yet, how do you think that you could? You can't. The only "ship" you have control over, is your own. If you aren't happy with your own circumstances, take the helm and change your course. This is your gift----"Choice". You are the Master and Captain of your "ship." "Direction" is yours. Always.